The way you stand, hold your head and use your eyes can mark you as prey for a predator or as a dominant primate, not to be trifled with. Do you know how to use body language vs predators?
Body Language vs predators
Humans are essentially fancy primates, so there are certain instinctual cues that we use to assess others. Predatory humans will use these instincts, many times without even realizing it. They watch the flock for the weak, the easy pickings, their prey.
Most of the flock is weak. Their heads are down, eyes averted, and their shoulders slumped.
The strong stand a certain way and project a certain vibe. Even if you don’t feel confident or dominant, you can train yourself to use your posture to project that you are a dominant alpha, even if you aren’t!
How can you been seen as stronger than the others? This will take a conscious effort, but only at first. After a while it becomes habit, and muscle memory.
First stand up straight, with your shoulders back. This makes you appear in your largest form. Predators don’t go after the larger members of the herd, they look for the small and weak. Even if you don’t appear huge and buff, you appear larger and less weak than others. This also makes you appear more confident, more proud and more dominant. You don’t have to feel that way, you just have to stand like you do feel that way. It’s all smoke and mirrors, baby.
The way you hold your head is important. The weak will keep their chin down, which also brings your eyes down. Always keep your chin pointed slightly higher than 90 degrees from the ground. Not so high up that you appear snooty. This slight upward tilt of your head is a display of confidence. Even if the predator doesn’t notice it consciously, his subconscious will be all over it.
Eye Contact and Eye positions
Eye contact is HUGE. Make eye contact with everyone who’s looking at your face. This is tough, but keep calm, keep a poker face and let them know that you saw them looking at you. You don’t have to make tough faces or any of that jazz, make eye contact then look past them as if they weren’t worth your time. Keep watching them with your peripheral vision until you need to make eye contact with the next person, and so on.
Another nice addition to eye contact is a verbal recognition to say something to tell them “Yeah I see you”, but subtly. I like to say things casual things like “how you doing”. I don’t say it like I’m using a pick up line, it’s just an acknowledgement that I see them and am aware. This is big, most of the sheep are afraid to interact with strangers. They’re weak.
I’ve had to use these tips many times, and I am confident that it’s kept me from assault on at many occasions.
One evening, while on travel, I was walking down the an unfamiliar street to a nearby sandwich shop, to grab some dinner. I saw three men, at the mouth of a narrow alley. They were watching me, while trying to pretend like they weren’t. They were whispering to each other, like they were coordinating or working out a plan.
Everything about this was triggering instinctive reactions in my body. Nothing about this felt right!
What could I do?
I bluffed, using the same tricks, that animals do in nature to avoid being eaten.
I put my shoulders further back, stood up taller, puffed out my chest a bit, moved my arms out from my sides a bit more (to make me look larger, hopefully like those muscle guys, who’s arms hang out a bit to the sides).
Now I hopefully appeared larger. I certainly felt larger.
I then proceeded to greet them loudly, “Evening, Gentlemen!”, while making eye contact, with each one of them, one at a time, until they broke my gaze and looked away. This rattled them. It wasn’t what they expected and it took them off their game.
When I look back it reminds me of a fast moving, aggressive mouse in a snake’s cage. Sometimes that mouse is just too much for the snake, and the next morning, that snake was had little bite marks all around his edges; all because the mouse kept it off guard, so he couldn’t fully engage into predator eating mode.
It’s important to leverage all your tools to avoid being the prey, or the sheep. Body Language vs predators is a key tool that everyone should be aware of and ready to use.
I never smile if I can help it. Showing one’s teeth is a submission signal in primates. When someone smiles at me, all I see is a chimpanzee begging for its life. – Dwight Shrute, Dunder-Mifflin Paper, inc. (The Office)